When was the last time you heard someone say something like I am so in love with . . ..? I’m so in love with <insert name>. He brings out the best in me. I’m so in love with her. She makes me feel like the man/woman I’m supposed to be. I am so in love with this house. It’s so inviting. I love being in it–the view is amazing. I feel so comfortable. I love that place! Let’s go there!
How did you feel when you listen to someone gush about loving?
When others are filled with love, with abundance, with joy, with magic, how does it feel to be around them? Do you enjoy it? Is the love they feel infectious? Is it uncomfortable? Annoying?
What we feel when we are in the presence of love is a reflection of the love we feel in and for ourselves.
I propose that it’s time to fall in love with yourself. That’s right. There is nothing better for wellbeing, balance, harmony, joy, or peace than self love . . . falling in love with yourself. When we love ourselves, we take care of ourselves. Have fun with ourselves. Enjoy ourselves. Are happy with ourselves.
What I’m proposing may seem exciting, or at least interesting to some, and scary to uncomfortable to others. Isn’t it exciting, or at least interesting, to experience something new . . . some new feeling? Think about the last time you fell in love with something. How’d it feel? Easy? Joyful? Were you anxious at times? Giddy at others? Sure? Unsure? Excited to see what unfolded? Eager for the next step? Falling in love often takes us through a range of emotions. . . . What do you remember feeling?
Consider looking in the mirror and saying, I love you. I love myself.
When you try it, how does it feel? Do you want to turn away quickly? Or are you comfortable with looking at yourself?
I started dancing when I was four years old. Being short, I was always on the end of the line where there was no mirror. If I looked slightly to my left, I saw the other girls in the mirror. Later when classes were smaller and I was in a duet or trio, I was right in front of the mirror. It was hard for me to look at myself. I often watched the other girls or looked away, so I didn’t lose focus on the dance. When I watched myself in the mirror, I saw all of my flaws and was very uncomfortable. It was uncomfortable for me to look in any mirror.
How do you feel when you look in the mirror? What goes through your mind? What do you say to yourself? What if you just changed the script? What would happen if we all changed our scripts?
What would the world be like if everyone was taught to say, feel, and know: “I love my self. I am in love with myself. I love loving myself. Loving myself brings me joy. Makes me happy. Makes me feel . . . . Is peaceful. Is . . . . .
What will happen if you love yourself? What will change for you?
I invite you to sign up for my blog and join me on a journey of love this fall. Let’s explore falling in love with ourselves and see where that takes us. It’s going to be an exciting journey.
Over the next week, ask:
- Am I ready to fall in love with myself?
- If you feel uncomfortable with that question, ask: What do I fear?
- Acknowledge whatever comes up. Don’t be afraid to allow whatever you feel. Accepting your fears is accepting yourself. Rejecting your fears is rejecting a part of yourself. If you can accept what you feel, you can love yourself.
- What in the world could be more important than loving myself?
- Am I ready to invest in my single-most valuable asset–me?
- If you feel uncomfortable with that question, ask: What do I fear?
Let’s fall in love this fall. With you.