How do you speak to the person you are in love with? What are some of the phrases you say to that person? I love you. You are beautiful. I love the way you make me feel. Thank you. I am so happy to be here with you. I can’t wait to spend time with you. I love taking care of you. What do you say about your loved ones to others? He makes me so happy. She brings out the best in me. I want to be my best when I am with him.
Do you speak to yourself in similar ways? Do you tell yourself I love you? I am beautiful. I feel good about myself. Thank you. I am happy to be me. I can’t wait to do something for myself. I love taking care of myself. The things you say to yourself, about yourself are a reflection of your love for yourself.
Several years ago I had knee replacement, and during the recovery process, I went shopping with a friend. We found that we were at different racks, and we’d call out to the each other and hold something up, and it was the same shirt or dress. I was trying on a few things in the fitting room, and she brought a dress for me to try on. Here, she said. Try this on—you’ll look great in this. So, I tried the dress on. I did look good, but the dress was a little short for me. I walked out to show her and look in the mirror, and she said, Wow. You look amazing.
Yeah, I said, I like it, but it’s short. I hate my knees showing. She said to me, if you talked about me like that, I’d want to be replaced too. Then she turned and walked away. I stood there looking in the mirror at my knees, and I suddenly realized what I had been telling them almost my whole life. Right there, as I stood looking at my knees in the mirror, I said, I’m sorry. I love you knees. Thank you for taking care of me on this journey. I sent them love. I bought the dress.
Every time I look at my knees, I say, thank you. I love you. My perception of my knees as knobby goes back to when I was just a girl in dance class. But, now that I am telling them that I love them every chance I get, they are changing shape, they are so pleasing to me when I look at them. I genuinely feel love for them. I feel their beauty.
What are you telling yourself during the day? Do you say thank you? Are you grateful for your body? Do you appreciate your mind? Your looks? Your coordination? Your energy? How do you speak to yourself. Would you stick around and listen to yourself or would you walk away if you could? When you buy clothes, what are the things you think or mutter to yourself? When you look in the mirror, what do you think? What do you say to yourself when you forget something? Take a wrong turn? Misplace something? Do you believe in yourself? Do you encourage yourself? Do you say, good job? Yeah me?
Consider when you energize–verbalize or think–negativity about yourself, you release to the universe the message I don’t love myself. I don’t deserve to be loved, to hear love, to be thanked, to be honored, which is reflected back to you.
When you energize love to yourself in thought, action, word, you reflect to the universe your love for yourself, which is reflected back to you. Intend to speak to yourself as you would to someone you love.
Everything you say to yourself has the potential to be a love song. If you miss a turn or are running late, can you perceive that you will arrive in divine timing–at the perfect moment for you? Imagine yourself walking in feeling confident that all is well. When you look in the mirror, can you choose to like what you see? If you like what you see, you will engage more confidently, comfortably, lovingly in everything you do during the day. Can you find something to admire? I look like I feel good today. Imagine if you feel good about yourself throughout your day how others will feel good about you too. If you get tired during the day, can you love your body for it’s work? I worked so hard and am thankful for my body for doing everything it could to get me through. I appreciate it signaling to me that I need to take care of it, myself, and rest. In moments when you feel stupid or awkward, can you perceive something different? Thank your highest self for the opportunity to look at or feel something new, learn something new. Appreciate the opportunity to experience disequillibrium and learn balance. Saying something as simple I love learning changes the song you sing to yourself.
As you move through your week, I encourage you to think about the way you talk to yourself and be your own best friend, love and admire yourself. Engage your sense of humor and appreciation. Value what you do. Value your efforts. Appreciate who you are. Love yourself enough to speak to yourself with love and respect.
Consider how your day might transform if every morning when you are getting dressed, brushing your teeth, fixing your hair, and looking in the mirror, you say to yourself, thank you. I love you. I appreciate you today. And then intend to express appreciation and love to yourself all day long. If you consciously intend to express love, kindness, gratitude and appreciation to yourself throughout the day, how might you feel differently by the end of the day?
This week, I encourage you to play your own love songs—through your thoughts, words and actions. You may realize that you need to record some new tracks. You may realize you love yourself in some ways and have the opportunity to improve in others. When you love yourself, you send the message to the universe that you deserve love, and the universe will reflect that song back to you. When you sing love songs to yourself, the world harmonizes with you.
I hope you fall in love with the melodies and tunes of your own thoughts, actions, and words. I would love to hear how you harmonized with your own love songs this week. Please keep me posted.